Published on:

9th Sep 2020

Rethabile Ramaphakela

Retini is an explorer of worlds, awarding winning writer and Burnt Onion’s Creative Director. Bringing heartwarming South African stories to the world.

On this episode of #TUWOG, Retini reminds us that getting out of our own way truly is the best path to success in every extension of our lives.

Find your hum, keep your crown, knight others.


  • Retini’s origin story: (00:06:41)
  • Don’t let them steal your crown (00:10:00)
  • Tattoos as a transcription of life (00:15:54)
  • Learning to enjoy the fruits of your labour (00:23:34)
  • Swinging: from the confident child to learned imposter syndrome and normalising (00:31:23)
  • Squash your personal doubts with the magic of the things you love (00:37:02)
  • And then, Covid said: Let There Be Time (00:43:18)
  • Sometimes you have to pull your own ear and question the root cause of your anxiety (00:51:46)
  • Avoiding the path to Bag Lady (00:54:43)
  • Consciously uncouple from bad financial habits (00:58:03)
  • Make better financial decisions (01:04:56)
  • Teaching the next generation about the dangers of peacocking (01:09:32)
  • Retini, the unwritten book (01:16:36)
  • And who wouldn’t want a Dragon Fruit (01:17:30)
  • Parting words of embarrassment (01:18:53)
  • For your bookshelf (01:19:34)

The Unsullied Book Club

Retini recommends:

  • Purple Hibiscus by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Available on Amazon and Apple Books.
  • Make Time: How to Focus on what Matters Every Day by Jake Knapp and John Zeratsky. Available on Amazon and Apple Books.


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This episode of TUWOG was edited by FayFay of 808Xtra. If you like what you hear, tell @NaijaPodHub about it.


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About the Podcast

The Unsullied with Oreka Godis
TUWOG and the archetypes of success.
On TUWOG (The Unsullied with Oreka Godis) we have conversations with people of African descent, swap origin stories, cultural challenges, shifting belief systems, explore the vices and crutches that define us, recommended reading and recipes that shape (subjective) success.

‪Recorded in Lagos, Nigeria‬, with each guest, we explicitly tuck into family and how ‘They F*** You Up (a la Oliver James) ambition, love, sex, drugs, social media, faith, money, power and lessons learned. We look from experiences that make us a little less naive to decisions that make us more childlike.

TUWOG explores transitioning through career depression, financial security, losing hope, finding unexpected gifts in moments that mean everything and nothing at all. Wanting to give up most of the time, winning the war some of the time, chalking up and dusting down battle lines of personal Vietnam’s, giving them hell and most importantly, finding out your definition of unsullied.
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Oreka Godis

British Nigerian (by way of Ogori) Actor, Producer, Radio and TV Personality, Podcaster, Host of TUWOG and Writer.